Hi again,
Faq says "
There is not any scientific performance counters from a performance profiling tool" as a reason why NH is still beta , so I think the answer can be hard. I've looked at the test results - performace test seems to be not finished yet - but if it will be done they can say something (case names are promising - AdoNetOnly, HibernateOnly and Simultaneous).
http://nhibernate.sourceforge.net/testresults/NHibernate/Test/PerformanceTest/PerformanceTest.html
Some time ago I've read that (don't remember where,sorry) the overhead caused by Reflection is recompensed by that the queries generated by OR-mapping tool are better optimized than the hand-written ones - so the overall slowness is about 20%.
Perersonaly I have one application using NHibernate and the biggest table has little more than 1000 objects - too small to have a straight opinion. Mayby someone else can say something more.